Learning to Pray for Spiritual Growth from Philippians 1:9โ11
Perhaps one of the clearest measures of what we truly desire for the people we love is what we repeatedly ask God to do in their lives.
โAnd it is my prayer that your love may abound more and more, with knowledge and all discernment, so that you may approve what is excellent, and so be pure and blameless for the day of Christ, filled with the fruit of righteousness that comes through Jesus Christ, to the glory and praise of God.โ
โ Philippians 1:9โ11
What do you pray for the people you love?
If someone listened carefully to your prayers for your husband, your children, your friends, your church, or the believers God has entrusted to your care, what would they discover that you most deeply desire for them?
We pray for safety, healing, provision, restored relationships, open doors, protection for our children, strength for marriages, and relief from suffering.
These are good things to bring before our Father.
But Paulโs prayer in Philippians 1:9โ11 confronts us with a deeper question:
Do our prayers reveal that our greatest desire for the people we love is their spiritual maturity and conformity to Jesus Christ?
Paul writes Philippians from imprisonment. He loves these believers deeply. He has invested himself in their lives, labored for their spiritual good, and partnered with them in the advancement of the gospel.
Immediately before recording his prayer, Paul writes:
โFor God is my witness, how I yearn for you all with the affection of Christ Jesus.โ
โ Philippians 1:8
Then Paul allows us to hear what a heart filled with the affection of Christ asks God to do in the lives of others.
He does not begin by praying that the Philippians would escape suffering or experience easier circumstances.
Paul prays for their spiritual growth.
He asks God to increase their love, deepen their knowledge, sharpen their discernment, teach them to recognize what is excellent, make them sincere and blameless, fill their lives with the fruit of righteousness through Jesus Christ, and keep them faithful until the day of Christ.
And all of it moves toward one ultimate purpose:
the glory and praise of God.
This prison prayer gives us more than a glimpse into Paulโs pastoral heart.
It teaches us how to pray for the people we love.
1. A Love That Never Stops Growing
Paul begins:
โAnd it is my prayer that your love may abound more and moreโฆโ
The Greek word translated abound is perisseuล (ฯฮตฯฮนฯฯฮตฯฯ).
It carries the idea of increasing, overflowing, exceeding, or becoming abundant.
Paul is not writing to Christians who have no love. The Philippians have already demonstrated their affection for Paul and their partnership in the gospel.
Yet Paul prays for more.
There is no point in the Christian life when we graduate from the command to love. Spiritual maturity does not mean that we eventually become loving enough.
The more deeply we know Christ, the greater our capacity should become to love the people He has placed around us.
Paul does not explicitly state the object of the Philippiansโ love in verse 9. The Greek text simply says:
แผก แผฮณฮฌฯฮท แฝฮผแฟถฮฝ โ โyour love.โ
Within Paulโs letters, love for fellow believers frequently occupies a prominent place, especially in the opening sections of his letters. Paul commends the saints for their love in Ephesians 1:15, Colossians 1:4, 1 Thessalonians 1:3, and 2 Thessalonians 1:3.
Given Paulโs repeated emphasis upon the love believers should have for one another, and the relational concerns that later emerge in Philippians, love for fellow Christians is certainly included and may be especially prominent here.
But Paulโs prayer reaches even deeper.
He desires a growing Christian loveโlove rooted in God, shaped by truth, and expressed wisely toward others.
When Jesus identifies the greatest commandments, He first commands us to love God with our entire being and then to love our neighbor as ourselves.
Love for God and love for others belong together.
We need love that abounds still more and more.
But Paul does not pray merely for more love.
He prays for a particular kind of love.
2. A Love Governed by Truth
Paul continues:
โโฆwith knowledge and all discernment.โ
The word translated knowledge is epignลsis (แผฯฮฏฮณฮฝฯฯฮนฯ).
It carries the idea of genuine, deep, or full knowledge.
The Reformer John Calvin explained Paulโs meaning:
โPaul means that it is full and complete, not a knowledge of all things.โ
Paul is not praying that the Philippians would simply accumulate more information or become intellectually impressive.
He desires a deepening knowledge that shapes how they live and love.
The word translated discernment is aisthฤsis (ฮฑแผดฯฮธฮทฯฮนฯ).
It refers to moral perception, insight, or the capacity to recognize what is appropriate in a particular situation.
Paul is praying for love with eyes.
Love that sees.
Love that understands.
Love that perceives.
Love that knows how to respond wisely to real people in real situations.
Biblical love is not blind sentimentality.
It is not merely being nice.
It is not avoiding difficult conversations, affirming every decision someone makes, or doing whatever makes us feel loving.
Paul is not praying that the Philippians would become smarter, but wiser in their care for one another.
Genuine love requires spiritual wisdom.
We need discernment to know when to speak and when to remain silent. When to confront and when to comfort. When to intervene and when to wait. When to give generously and when helping in the wrong way might enable destructive patterns.
Without knowledge and discernment, sincere attempts to love can become misguided.
We may offer tenderness without truth.
Or truth without tenderness.
We may give someone what they want when faithfulness requires giving them what they need.
We may avoid necessary conversations because we have confused kindness with silence.
Paul prays for something better.
Love governed by truth and guided by discernment.
Biblical love requires more than good intentions.
We need wisdom from God.
3. A Love That Chooses What Is Excellent
Paul explains the purpose of knowledge and discernment:
โโฆso that you may approve what is excellentโฆโ
The word translated approve is dokimazล (ฮดฮฟฮบฮนฮผฮฌฮถฯ).
It means to test, examine, scrutinize, and determine whether something meets the necessary standard.
Paul prays that the Philippians would develop the spiritual ability to examine the choices before them and recognize what is truly excellent.
Steven Lawson observes that some of the most difficult choices Christians face are not between what is obviously good and evil, but between what is good, better, and best.
That is where discernment becomes necessary.
We have limited time.
Limited energy.
Limited resources.
We cannot meet every need, accept every invitation, pursue every opportunity, intervene in every situation, or say yes to every good thing.
Mature Christian love asks:
What is most excellent here?
What will genuinely serve this personโs spiritual good?
What does faithfulness require in this particular situation?
What will matter most in light of eternity?
What must I say no to so that I can say yes to what God has actually entrusted to me?
Paul does not want the Philippians to stumble through relationships guided only by emotion, pressure, guilt, or the expectations of others.
He prays that their growing love, governed by knowledge and discernment, will enable them to recognize and pursue what is excellent.
We should pray the same for our churches, our spouses, our friends, those we disciple, and our children.
Lord, teach them to recognize what matters most.
4. A Love That Produces Integrity
Paul continues:
โโฆand so be pure and blameless for the day of Christโฆโ
The word translated pure or sincere is eilikrinฤs (ฮตแผฐฮปฮนฮบฯฮนฮฝฮฎฯ).
It communicates genuineness, sincerity, purity of motive, and integrity.
Paul is praying for believers whose lives can withstand examination.
Christians without divided loyalties.
Without religious performance.
Without carefully constructed appearances that conceal contradictory lives.
There must not be an inconsistency between what we confess to believe and how we live.
Our theology and conduct belong together.
Our public Christianity and private character belong together.
Our doctrine and love belong together.
Every area of life should increasingly become part of one integrated whole under the lordship of Jesus Christ.
That is integrity.
Paul also prays that the Philippians would be blameless.
The Greek word is aproskopos (แผฯฯฯฯฮบฮฟฯฮฟฯ).
It carries the idea of being without offense or not causing stumbling.
Paul wants their lives to be marked by such integrity that their conduct does not become an unnecessary obstacle in the spiritual lives of others.
It matters to God how we live.
Forgiveness of sin does not give us freedom to continue carelessly in sin.
The grace that pardons us is the same grace that purifies us.
Our hypocrisy can wound.
Our careless words can discourage.
Our uncontrolled anger can harm.
Our dishonesty can destroy trust.
Our selfishness can place obstacles in the spiritual lives of those around us.
Christian love therefore requires personal holiness.
Paul prays that this integrity would characterize the Philippians:
โโฆfor the day of Christ.โ
His prayer stretches all the way to eternity.
There is always more patience to learn, more kindness to practice, more forgiveness to extend, more selfishness to put to death, more wisdom to gain, and more Christlikeness to pursue.
The whole Christian life is lived in preparation for that great day.
When Christ returns, may He find us loving one another.
5. A Love That Bears Fruit Through Christ
Paul continues:
โโฆfilled with the fruit of righteousness that comes through Jesus Christโฆโ
The Christian life produces fruit.
But notice carefully where the fruit comes from.
Through Jesus Christ.
Paul is not praying for self-generated moral improvement.
He is not asking the Philippians to become better people through greater willpower.
The righteousness visible in their lives is produced through their relationship with Jesus Christ.
This connects beautifully with the opening words of Philippians and with the foundation we established in the first blog of this series.
Paul has already addressed these believers as:
โsaints in Christ Jesus.โ
They belong to Christ.
They are in Christ.
They receive grace and peace from Christ.
And now Paul prays that the life of Christ would increasingly bear visible fruit through them.
The spiritual fruit of righteousness begins to grow when God makes a sinner alive in Christ.
We do not love others in order to make ourselves Christians.
We love because God has made us alive in Christ.
We do not produce spiritual fruit in order to earn acceptance from God.
Spiritual fruit grows because we have been united to Jesus Christ.
The first fruit of the Spirit listed in Galatians 5:22 is love.
Rebirth is the root.
Love is the fruit.
The Christian life is not the decoration of a dead tree.
It is the fruitfulness of a living one.
And the source of that life is Jesus Christ.
This should deeply shape how we pray.
When we pray for spiritual growth in the people we love, we are not merely asking them to try harder.
We are asking God to produce through Christ what human effort cannot manufacture.
Lord, bear the fruit of Christ in them.
6. A Love That Ends in the Glory of God
Paul reaches the destination of his prayer:
โโฆto the glory and praise of God.โ
Paul begins with love.
But he ends with glory.
The glory of God.
Choosing what is excellent.
Sincerity and blamelessness.
Perseverance until the day of Christ.
The fruit of righteousness through Jesus Christ.
And ultimately:
The glory and praise of God.
Christian love is not ultimately about making us appear compassionate.
Spiritual maturity is not about producing impressive Christians.
The fruit of righteousness is not intended to build our reputation.
Everything terminates in the glory of God.
Paul writes:
โSo, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.โ
โ 1 Corinthians 10:31
The Puritan Thomas Brooks wrote:
โThe aim of the obedient soul, in prayer, and praises, and talking, and walking, in giving, and receiving, in living, and doing, is divine glory.โ
Godโs glory must become the master passion of the Christian life.
The way we pray.
The way we speak.
The way we love.
The way we forgive.
The way we serve.
The way we parent.
The way we suffer.
The way we work.
All of life should increasingly be directed toward one great end:
the glory and praise of God.
What Do Your Prayers Reveal About What You Want Most?
Paulโs prayer forces us to examine our own.
What do we most deeply desire for the people we love?
Do I merely want my children to be safe, successful, healthy, well-behaved, and happy?
Do I want my husband to change primarily because his change would make my life easier?
Do I pray more frequently for the physical health of the people I love than for their holiness?
Do I pray for my church to grow numerically without praying with equal intensity that we would grow in love, discernment, integrity, and righteousness?
If someone listened to our prayers, would they know that our greatest desire for the people we love is that Christ would be formed in them?
Paul teaches us to pray beyond circumstances.
That does not mean we stop praying for healing, safety, provision, protection, reconciliation, or relief from suffering.
Our Father invites us to bring every burden to Him.
But our prayers should reach further.
Lord, whatever You do with their circumstances, make them more like Christ.
Increase their love.
Deepen their knowledge.
Sharpen their discernment.
Teach them to recognize what is excellent.
Make their lives sincere and blameless.
Fill them with the fruit of righteousness through Jesus Christ.
Keep them faithful until the day of Christ.
And through their lives, receive glory and praise.
Perhaps one of the greatest ways we can love another person is to pray for what God desires to produce in them.
Behold Christ
Paulโs prayer does not leave us staring at ourselves.
It leads us to Jesus Christ.
The love Paul desires is formed in those who know Christ.
The discernment Paul requests is wisdom God must give.
The righteousness Paul desires comes through Jesus Christ.
The perseverance Paul anticipates continues until the day of Christ.
And the glory produced through transformed lives ultimately belongs to God.
Christ is not standing at the edge of this prayer waiting for us to become better people.
He is at the center of it.
He is the source of the righteousness Paul desires.
He is the One whose life increasingly becomes visible in His people.
He is the One toward whose return the Christian life is moving.
We cannot manufacture this kind of love.
We must receive from Christ what we need in order to give ourselves faithfully to others.
So when we pray for the people we love, we are asking God for something only He can do:
Make them like Jesus.
And through their lives, glorify Your name.
Examine Your Heart
What do my prayers reveal that I most deeply desire for the people I love?
Do I pray more frequently for changed circumstances than for transformed character?
Is my love governed by biblical truth and spiritual discernment, or primarily by emotion, fear, guilt, pressure, or the desire for approval?
Is there consistency between what I confess to believe and how I live?
Am I trying to produce spiritual fruit through human effort rather than depending upon Jesus Christ?
Is the glory of God truly the highest aim of my prayers and my life?
Respond
Choose one person God has placed upon your heart.
Your spouse.
Your child.
A friend.
A church member.
Someone you disciple.
Someone who is suffering.
Someone with whom your relationship is difficult.
For the next week, pray Philippians 1:9โ11 specifically for that person.
Ask God to increase their love, deepen their knowledge, sharpen their discernment, teach them to recognize what is excellent,
Pray
Father, teach me to pray for the people I love according to Your priorities and not merely my preferences.
Let our love abound more and more with knowledge and all discernment. Give us wisdom to recognize the real needs of the people You have placed in our lives and teach us to love them faithfully.
Help us recognize what is excellent and give us courage to choose what is best rather than simply what is easiest, most comfortable, or most approved by others.
Make our lives sincere and blameless. Bring every hidden inconsistency under the lordship of Jesus Christ, and keep our lives from becoming stumbling blocks to others.
Fill us with the fruit of righteousness that comes through Jesus Christ. Produce in us what we cannot manufacture ourselves. Keep us faithful until the day of Christ.
And above every other desire, teach us to live for Your glory.
Make us more like Jesus.
And through our lives, glorify Your name.
Amen.





































































